dear future husband XVII.

"‘I love you’ means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. ‘I love you’ means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me." - jonathan safran foer 

love, j.

dear future husband XVI.

"There is a mysterious force which draws together those who constantly think of each other. Fools call it 'coincidence.'" - cecil b. demille 

love, j.

dear future husband XV.

“It’s a mystery of human chemistry and I don’t understand it, some people, as far as their senses are concerned, just feel like home.” - nick hornby

love, j.

dear future husband XIV.

"i love you because the whole universe conspired to help me find you." -paulo coelho

love, j.

dear future husband XIII.

"do you want me to tell you something really subversive? love is everything it's cracked up to be.  that's why people are so cynical about it.  it really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.  and the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more." - erica jong

love, j.

dear future husband XII.

"far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person."

 -gloria steinem

love, j.

dear future husband XI.

"I urge husbands and fathers of this church to be the kind of men your wives would not want to be without. I urge the sisters of this church to be patient, loving, and understanding with their husbands. Those who enter into marriage should be fully prepared to establish their marriage as the first priority in their lives." - President James E. Faust

love, j.

dear future husband X.

"and so, my dear young men, you may not think seriously about it now, but the time will come when you will fall in love. it will occupy all of your thoughts and be the stuff of which your dreams are made. make yourself worthy of the loveliest girl in all the world." - president gordon b. hinkley

love, j.

dear future husband IX.

"a real lover is a man

who can thrill you

by kissing your forehead."

-marilyn monroe.

love, j.

dear future husband VIII.

"Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in 80's movies? I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80's movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life."   - Olive Penderghast

lets have a love like in an 80's movie?

love, j

dear future husband VII.

i read this girls blog. and it's awesome. it's why i started doing "dear future husband." one day i want you to be able to read all these quotes and stories. i think it will make our marriage stronger. anyway, she wrote this. and i absolutely loved it. she's brilliant and i couldn't have wrote it any better myself. 

dear future husband:

i am no stranger to heartache.  i've been dumped [multiple times], and i've had to be the one who ends things. some times it really sucks. sometimes it's better.

in all my failed relationships, i have learned a lot.

- if you care enough about a person, you will make it work. no matter what.  this means that when things get scary or get tough, you stick it out.  you iron out the creases.

- don't let the little things add up to big deals.  yes, i would prefer it if you did everything i wanted you to, whenever i wanted it, but that's unrealistic.  so i'll forgive you for those small things if you agree to forgive me.

- relationships are unique.  don't compare the one you're currently in to any other relationship [you're past ones, your friends' or your parents'].  relationships move at different paces and are expressed in different ways.

- when they end, they end.  sometimes the end makes you feel like you are going to throw up and never breathe normally again.  sometimes, you're at peace with it.  whatever the ending, things move on.  you heal.  don't let the possibility of heartbreak destroy your hope in dating.

- in general, don't let your fears of anything get in the way.  fear is the opposite of faith.  you should go into all your relationships with faith.

- remember that you are worth it. you are a great, amazing person.  self-respect is key to a healthy relationship.

x leslie

love, j.

dear future husband VI.

love hard when there is love to be had.
love, j.

dear future husband V.

from the mouth of babes.

love, j.

dear future husband IV.

"Unless it's mad passionate extraordinary love,

It's a waste of time.

There are too many mediocre things in life.

Love should not be one of them."

dear future husband III.

"...sometimes i will be stuck with a kind of awe that we're together. that someone like me could find someone like you - it renders me wordless. because surely words would conspire against such luck, would protest the unlikelihood of such a turn of events....i would be overwhelmed by the evidence, by all the lines connecting you to me, and us to love." 
- "the lover's dictionary" david levithan

love, j.

dear future husband II.

THE TIME WILL COME WHEN YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE.

It will occupy all of your thoughts and be the stuff of which your

dreams are made.  There can be so much happiness if there is

an effort to please and an overwhelming desire to make

comfortable and happy ones companion.  You will know no

greater happiness than that found in your home.  The truest

mark of your success in life will be the quality of your

marriage.  I could wish for you nothing more wonderful

than the love, the absolute total love, of a companion of

whom you are proud and worthy in every respect.

- President Hinkley

happy valentines day.

love, j. 

p.s. i reblogged this quote from here. go check it out. her blog is lovely.

dear future husband,

 “ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.” 

- letter from Paul Newman to his wife on their wedding day.

love, your future wife.

via.

day 8.

Three things you want to say to different people.

#1. Grandpa Szabo.
Sometimes I think of what you were like. And even though we didn't get to meet, I know that I love you. I think that we would have been pals. I hope that you're doing well and that you accepted the gospel completely so that we can be together for forever. I can't wait to meet you :)

#2. My future husband.
Sometimes when I can't sleep, I lay in bed and think about you. I wonder what you're like right now. If we're going to come from two different places and Heavenly Father's going to put us in each others paths, or if He already has. I think about how much fun it's going to be when we're married and how in love we're going to be. That you're going to be my favorite thing to think about and how you'll hold me when I cry. How when we're eighty years old you'll still be holding my hand and stealing kisses, just because you know that I love it. I like thinking about you. I promise to be better and to always strive to be my best, but only if you do too. :)

#3. The new seminary council.
I found out who you are a few days ago. And I'm going to meet you tomorrow. I have mixed emotions about it. I'm so excited to meet you and to find out what wonderful people you are. But at the same time, I don't want my part of it to end. It's changed my life. I have a special bond with seventeen other people because of this calling. These are people that I most likely wouldn't have got the chance to talk to that much this year, but instead I've become very good friends with.
Don't ever take for granted this opportunity. It's one that you'll never have again.
Remember that you're doing the Lord's work and that you've been called for a reason to help out his other children at American Fork High School.
Be an example of Christ.
Love what you're doing and never complain about it.
You'll never regret all that you do for it.
I hope you'll have just as good as an experience as I've been able to have.

Love, J